Change can be hard for people, even when it is a positive change. Finding
new boundaries for both of you is important to your transitions. It becomes
harder when both of you are transitioning to new roles at the same time.
Think of it as a negotiation rather than a confrontation and talk with your
supervisor about expectations and roles for you. I think Cassandra's advice
is sound in talking with your supervisor about their role as your mentor.
Good luck.

Rhonda

On Thu, Aug 16, 2012 at 10:52 AM, Cass Karl <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> Terri,
> Have you expressed to this person that you would like her to mentor
> you?  Maybe frame it in terms of, "I need to lead the Volunteers and
> have credibility with the Foundation and you did really well with
> that- can you give me any advice?"  That may go a long way towards
> forming your relationship into something more constructive.
> Also, you mentioned that she "took some of her duties with her" when
> she transfered- this is something you really should clarify with your
> supervisor.  You need a clear deliniation between what is your
> responsibility and what is hers in order to do your job effectively.
> Just my two cents.
> -Casandra
>
> On 8/16/12, Terri <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> > All,
> >
> > This is an extremely personal topic for me, but unfortunately, I am a
> > one-person shop and do not have another peer in my agency I can take this
> > to.  I have been a member of this List-serv for a while now and believe
> its
> > members to have a wide range of experiences - hopefully wide enough to
> give
> > me some advice.
> >
> > Has anyone else had experience with hierarchy shifts where the current
> > director of a facility advances and becomes a supervisor and you yourself
> > got moved from another location into their old position (basically your
> > predecessor is your supervisor)?  Keep in mind that you both used to be
> the
> > same rank/pay but at different locations.  I was at the equivalent of the
> > local/regional office while they were at a specific facility.  Now we've
> > switch locations; I am at a specific location and they took over my old
> > supervisor's post at the local office - my old position was not filled
> due
> > to budget cuts.
> >
> > I'm having some difficulties with "letting go" coupled with "I've done
> this
> > longer/older than you" syndromes (20 years experience to my 10+ and early
> > 70s to my early 30s) and would greatly appreciate some advice.  I want to
> > view this person as a mentor, but feel I'm not taken seriously nor as a
> > professional with some experience.  I would like to be seen as a
> > professional, but feel the duties and responsibilities they once enjoyed
> in
> > my current position have transferred up with them, rather than staying
> with
> > my position.  This dynamic is starting to erode my authority with my
> > volunteers and my Foundation; I am just not sure how to broach this
> subject
> > with my supervisor but know something needs to be done before it
> seriously
> > affects my Museum.
> >
> > I would appreciate any thoughts; please contact me off-list.
> >
> > Respectfully,
> >
> > Terri Bedore
> > Director, USAF Security Forces Museum
> >
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