I think Frank has a great idea and was along the lines I was thinking while reading your post and replies.
If the object isn't currently on view, you could arrange to have it on view for a set period of time or for a "special viewing"--which could turn into a fundraiser of sorts --if you work it right. Behind the scenes tours regarding these specific donor's might be helpful in explaining the importance of collection's care. Also if you have a collection's committee, they should be able to back you up and act as a buffer, to your one "no!"
I also agree with the reference to IRS and AAM's best practices and standards.
I should add depending on the object, I have installed off-site exhibits in secure locations, ie a bank lobby, a library. All objects in a secure case for no more than a month. These locations had to go through facility reports just like a museum would.
--Shannon
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