I agree with Sara; and if one has always been single — how can they compare what being single is compared to non-single? How is it different for men, if at all (similarities and differences)? Is being “single” different cross-culturally? If they are treated poorly, is it do someone (that mean person) just having a bad day or year (death a child or parent or debilitating disease, etc…) of the person being curmudgeonly toward the poor, single, person? But we need to know what being “single” is. People now, if divorced, separated, widowed, call themselves “single”, but being an actual single parent whose children were born on the cusp of unmarried women's children being called bastards, how has that appropriation of the glorification of victimhood (obviously those types are piss poor scientists and mathematicians much less have the critical thinking skills to go past thinking at stage 1 to those further stages of analysis) illuminated the ridiculousness of the whining of today’s immediate gratification populations, the entitlement population, the you owe me population, oh poor you, you need 30 government programs and the concomitant 30 bureaucracies, and the grads being spit out today with incompetency in the literature of other disciplines (economics, anthropology) much less the broader historical literature with opposing viewpoints in their own discipline? What is single? Define the terms. Signa Pendegraft, MA, RPA Robert M. Lee Trust, Archives [log in to unmask] > On May 23, 2016, at 9:13 AM, Sara Pfannkuche <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > > Anne- > I was going to answer your questionnaire but I was stopped because I'm not sure exactly what your definition of "single by choice" means. Yes, I'm single by the governmental definition of not being married, but that does not necessarily, as I believe your definition is suggesting, am purposefully living my life "totally on my own." I may be young and don't want to get married until I'm older. I may be a single mother who decided to raise my child on her own because it was healthier. I may be in a committed relationship (either living with someone or apart due to job circumstances) but not planning on getting married. I may be single, but committed to caring for a parent or sibling and therefore have responsibilities never thought of a "single woman." > > In the above situations am I still "single by choice" even though I am committed or planning not to be single in my future? > > I am glad you are considering how being single affects women in the museum world, but the reality of "singlehood" is complex and not a cut and dry situation. It is also something that isn't always a permanent situation (as marriage is also not a permanent situation) when working in a museum. I have been to quite a few of my museum cohorts weddings! > > Sara Pfannkuche > > > Date: Mon, 23 May 2016 06:53:08 -0400 > From: [log in to unmask] > Subject: [MUSEUM-L] Survey: The Single Museum Woman > To: [log in to unmask] > > For a chapter in our forthcoming book on women in the museum workplace, Joan Baldwin and I would like to include a chapter that examines the career motivations of single museum women, particularly women who are single by choice, to better understand how singledom affects their outlook on work. > > https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/SingleMuseumWomen <http://www.linkedin.com/redir/redirect?url=https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/SingleMuseumWomen&urlhash=O5w1&_t=tracking_anet> > > Many thanks for your help, > > Anne > > -- > Anne W. 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