Well said!

Greg stevens

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>With the information you provided, Belinda, I hope you will accept what
>happened without further concern on your part.  An hour of being piqued and
>puzzled seems justified, but not much more.
>
>Once you do feel you need to use the curator as reference, I hope you will
>contact him for permission to do so.  I have no doubt he will be supportive
>of your future.  In fact, you might drop him a personal note reflecting on
>how much you learned from your volunteer experience and how much you respect
>him on a professional basis.
>
>You seem to suggest the curator was interested in developing some
>relationship with your boy friend.  That might be a stretch. A gay person is
>not, contrary to stereotype, a predator any more than a heterosexual might
>be.  Your friend might have inquired why he wanted to have this information,
>since he would be moving anyway.  It was a matter for those two to resolve,
>in my view.
>
>Ross Weeks Jr.
>Tazewell VA
>
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Belinda Chun" <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Friday, April 27, 2001 11:56 PM
>Subject: Insulted by Curator, Seek Advice
>
>
>> Hello Everyone::
>>
>> This is a bit of an odd question...to begin, I have been volunteering at
>> a commercial gallery consistently from Sept 2000-April 2001 and have
>> been showing up at regular time and spending more time volunteering then
>> I had originally thought.  I am also the only volunteer at this
>> gallery.  I have enjoyed this experience and have looked up to the
>> curator, who will remain unnamed.  However, today I went in for my last
>> day to say "good bye" as I am only here for school (University), and now
>> that finals are done I am heading home.  This was known and it was nice
>> to get together to talk with the curator.  I should also mention that I
>> went in with my boyfriend whom he (the curator) has met previously (many
>> times as my boyfriend has at times dropped me off; the curator also
>> knows that we have been dating for a few years).  I should also mention
>> that the curator is gay, and is openly gay (by the way I do not have any
>> problems with this).  What happened is that he (the curator) ended up
>> asking my boyfriend for his number and his e-mail which my boyfriend
>> gave knowing that his number will be disconnected in two days as he is
>> moving too.  As for the e-mail he gave the wrong one. I don't know what
>> I should do or if I should do anything, this has caused me to feel
>> unappreciated, insulted and I feel strongly angry at myself for not
>> saying anything.  My boyfriend has been supportive and is insulted by
>> this curator, and feels that he is "not a good person".  This is
>> especially magnified, since he didn't ask for my contacts and made it so
>> blatantly obvious that he was "interested" only in my boyfriend, as he
>> numerously interrupted me to talk to my boyfriend.
>> I personally do not feel that this curator is useful in terms of
>> "resume/reference" and still feel deeply hurt by this event.  I guess
>> what I am asking then is for the museum-L subscriber to advise me if I
>> should do anything or not?  And if anyone has been in some similar
>> position what to do??
>> Thank you for all those who reply, your advice will be greatly
>> appreciated as I am left hurt by this incident.
>> ~Belinda
>>
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M.A.T. Candidate 2001
Museum Education Program
The George Washington University

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