Back home last nite; work today.  W'end after Labor Day not mentioned.
Thanks!  Pete had lots on his mind.  Jackie called last nite while I was
in shower; everything OK.

Pete JUST called; Daddy not D/C'd today due to lung congestion &
difficulty swallowing today.  Daddy & I both had colds after hosp. stay
in May.  Certainly hope no more than that.  Pete to call if he needs me;
had expected Brenda & Rosa Mae to be w/Daddy this w'end since they had
few days off during week.  Hope Pete contacted Ruth; hesitate to put 1
of you 3 in McColl if situation "shakey!"

Came in late today, but will leave as close to on-time as possible!
Slept few hrs. in car Tues. nite (after Daddy wouldn't go to sleep w/me
beside him) & then on sprung roll-away type thing Wed. nite that
absolutely killed my back & hips!  Pete smart - had Rosa Mae stay last
nite @ hosp.!  Own shower (had used 1 in hosp. rm./private) & own bed
were positively mah-h-hvelous last nite.

Loved the piece from Deb Fuller!  Would like to know what brought that
on - what did someone consider as a "Confederate" attitude?  I
completely agree w/her assessment of "Southern
Culture".............................

Do you know Deb?  Most interesting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Thanks,
B!

I'm sure someone will be in touch re: Daddy.

kathy j

PS  wonder if I were originally named Kathy Lou?

> ----------
> From:         Deb Fuller[SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> Reply To:     Museum discussion list
> Sent:         Thursday, August 27, 1998 3:59 PM
> To:   Kathy Jarman
> Subject:      Re: Equity and All That
>
> Kathy,
> Thought you might enjoy this.  Ruth said G'daddy going home today -
> good news.
>  Guess Daddy told you Anne could go to McColl weekend after Labor Day;
> I was su
> pposed to send you a message earlier in the week.  Hope all is well
> with you an
> d family.
>
>
> As one who was born in the South and has lived all my life in the
> South,
> let me try and clarify.
>
> What you are calling a "Confederate" attitude associated with the
> South, is
> not "true Southern Culture" but basic stupidity brought on by
> ignorance and
> an unwillingness to change.
>
> I pride myself on being well-schooled in "Southern Culture" and hold
> none
> of those anti-federal sentiments nor do I believe that the NEA is
> responsible for the degredation of society and the family.
>
> "Southern Culture" is a whole 'nother mindset.  It is calling
> everyone,
> regardless of nationality, creed, socialization, birthplace or age
> either
> "Sir" or "Ma'am", especially those who are older than oneself.  It is
> refering to people by "Mr.", "Miz", "Miss" or "Mrs." lastname until
> they
> give you permission to call them by their first names.  (You don't
> know how
> erked I get when some cashier who I've never seen before and probably
> will
> never see again calls me "Deborah" because it's the name on my credit
> card.)  It's refering to the elderly as "Miss"  or "Mr" Firstname and
> having grandparents that are fondly refered to as "Big Mamma" and "Big
> Daddy" as well as having at least one cousin called either "Hoss",
> "Buddy"
> or "Earl."  It's haveing at least one female relative must be called
> by two
> first names, many times having one that is typically male like "Bobby
> Sue"
> or "Betty Anne".
>
> In the South, people do not walk or drive fast.  (Those elderly who
> moved
> to Florida after they retired do not count.)  One does not hurry
> anywhere
> else you are late for church or Sunday dinner at Big Mamma's.  Cars
> are
> never parked directly in front of someone's house.
>
> "Visitin'" is the Southern past-time.  Afternoons are spent wandering
> from
> house to house, inquiring about the health and well-being person's
> immediate family and family friends.  Gossip is not allowed and
> personal or
> in-depth questions about health or family are not permitted.  Neither
> are
> heated topics such as politics, religion and why Mary Sue suddenly got
> married and had a baby 6 months later.
>
> Visitin' is often done unannounced and if someone is not home, one
> simply
> moves to another house and comes back later.  Seldom are unannounced
> guests
> seen as an imposition and people are rarely too busy not to at least
> take
> time for a short chat on the porch.  The hosts will always offer
> something
> to drink like iced tea and something to eat like cake or small
> sandwiches.
> These are always on hand and can be seasonal.  For example,
> watermellon is
> always around during the summer and is often left cut in half with a
> knife
> stuck in it on the kitchen counter for all to dig into.  Iced tea is
> always
> served sweetened and unsweetened tea is always offered with Sweet N'
> Low.
>
> Dinner, the meal after breakfast and before supper, is the largest
> meal of
> the day and must include either biscuts, cornbread, some pork product
> and
> leftovers from the meal the day before.
> Catfish is always served fried with hush puppies;  tartar sauce is for
> yuppies. Barbeque is rated like fine wine and styles vary from region
> to
> region.  Any sort of pre-bottled sauce is considered high sacriledge
> and an
> open pit is madatory.  Gravy can be put on anything and is usually
> served
> at most meals.  When in doubt, fry it.  Bisquick has more uses than
> duct tape.
>
> Southern Culture means smiling and saying hello to everyone that you
> pass
> on the street.  Making eye contact with strangers is not a pre-cursor
> to
> mugging.  It's knowing all your neighbors on a first name basis and
> greeting new neighbors with a caserole or dessert.
>
> It is many other things as well but that would be someone's cultural
> anthropology dissertation.  But hopefully this gives you a brief look
> at a
> unique way of life.
>
> Deb Fuller, and yes I really called my grandmother "Big mamma", have
> an
> uncle Earl, and a relative known as "Edna Mae"  :)
>
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